This video is based on a fictional scenario inspired by real-life situations, but the individual portrayed is an actor.

Can you tell us why you took a seat on the Youth Commission?

I took a seat for my community - I don’t want other people making the same mistake I did. Too many people think sharing private pictures is just a laugh. But it’s not. It’s called image-based abuse for a reason. It has real consequences, for the person you hurt and for you. And we need to talk about it more. No one at school ever explained how serious this stuff is and that needs to change. I want to help make a change.

Are you able to share your story with us?

When I was 16, I had a girlfriend. We were close, and she trusted me. One night, she sent me private pictures. Then we broke up. It wasn’t a huge drama, but I was upset. When I was with my mates, and we were talking about her and I just showed them the pictures.

At the time, I thought, it’s only the lads, what’s the harm? But things spread fast. Someone sent them to someone else, and suddenly, she was getting horrible messages from people she didn’t even know. She reported it to school, and the police got involved. That’s when I realised sharing private pictures without permission is actually a crime. I had no idea

At first, I tried to convince myself it wasn’t my fault. I didn’t send them around, someone else did. But it was my fault. I started it and this left me feeling horrible. I still feel bad about what happened now.

Too many people think sharing private pictures is just a laugh. But it’s not. It’s called image-based abuse for a reason. It has real consequences, for the person you hurt and for you.
Josh, Youth Commission Member

What did you learn from this?

Sharing private pictures is never okay. Doesn’t matter if you’re angry, hurt, or trying to show off, it’s wrong. It’s not just ‘banter.’ It can ruin someone’s life. Taking responsibility matters.

What would be your advice to people reading this who may be going through a
similar situation?

We need to have more education on the consequences and why you shouldn’t do what I did. If someone trusts you with private pictures, don’t share them. End of. And if this has happened to you - if someone’s shared your pictures, please know it’s not your fault.

If you have been affected by any of the issues, raised by Josh, help and support is available.