
I took a seat for my best friend's brother
Ilana’s friend’s 15 year old brother was manipulated into joining a gang, where he was exploited and arrested. Now, she’s joined the Youth Commission to seek change, to ensure young people don’t slip through the cracks.
Can you tell us why you took a seat on the Youth Commission?
I took a seat for my best friend’s brother. And I’m here for all young people, including those who still bring energy on a Sunday, cleaning my home to reggae music. Vulnerable young people who are seen to be easy targets - groomed and manipulated by gangs. They’re often misunderstood by the system – criminalised rather than supported. With the right guidance, opportunities, and a better system, they have the potential to thrive – but it needs our community to step up and provide unwavering support.
Are you able to share your story with us?
In 2022, he was arrested for possession and distribution of 37 wraps of heroin, at only 15 years old. He should have been focused on the next gaming drop, not drugs. It started with smoking weed excessively to cope with his mental health. The paranoia spiralled, making me feel useless and unable to help. Groomed into gangs made him feel like he mattered, yet he didn’t, not like he does to his family. The gangs saw money, and because he was lost, it led to him paying the price.
When he was arrested, it was overwhelming. The uncertainty and lack of communication was tough, but it also made me realise how important it is for the system to offer more understanding and support. Seen as just another “troubled yute,” we educated ourselves on the justice system, but it didn’t matter – there was no real help. But our community was there - the real friends, the people who helped us process, motivate me, help me connect with others. The ones who showed up, prayed and cared for everyone connected with him. That’s when I truly understood the power of community.
Groomed into gangs made him feel like he mattered, yet he didn’t. The gangs saw money, and because he was lost, it led to him paying the price.
What did you learn from this?
What I’ve learnt is that the system doesn’t always protect vulnerable young people - it punishes them. With the right foundations, it could be different for others. We need to change the way we see these young people. They’re not the problem - they’re the product.
What would be your advice to people reading this who may be going through a
similar situation?
Take a seat for your brother. Take a seat for our brothers everywhere. They don’t need judgement - they need help. Better community engagement and providing early intervention could be the threshold of freedom. It takes a village to raise a child. Our system can be better, it needs to be better, as they deserve a fair chance. We need to come together to support this change, not look away, and ensure they’re more than just another statistic.
If you have been affected by any of the issues, raised by Ilana, help and support is available.
Victim Support | Victim Support | 0808 168 9111 |
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West Yorkshire Police | West Yorkshire Police | 101 and 999 |
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